Traditional goal-setting often sets us on a predetermined path, urging us to chase external achievements without pausing to question their alignment with our core values. This default approach can lead to unmet goals and a lingering sense of disappointment. The flaw lies in the assumption that success is solely defined by external markers, neglecting the essential aspect of how these goals resonate with our authentic desires.

The conventional model doesn't account for the fact that it's not just the goal itself that propels us forward; it's the underlying feeling we associate with its accomplishment. When we overlook this emotional connection and focus solely on ticking off tasks, we risk pursuing goals that, despite being achieved, leave us unfulfilled.

Enter "The Desire Map"  introducing a paradigm shift in goal-setting and life planning. Instead of fixating on external achievements, author Danielle LaPorte advocates for a focus on core desired feelings. 

The concept is to understand how you want to feel in various aspects of your life and use those feelings as a guide for making choices and setting intentions. The Desire Map invites a shift from traditional goal-oriented thinking to a more soulful and intentional approach, where the emphasis is on creating a life that aligns with one's deepest desires.

Let's break down the concept with some examples

1. Traditional Goal:
   • Example: Losing 10 kilos
   • Desire Map Approach:
     • Core Desired Feeling: Vibrant and Energized.
     • Shift: Instead of fixating on a specific weight, the focus is on activities and choices that make you feel vibrant and energized, like choosing nourishing foods and engaging in enjoyable physical activities.
2. Traditional Goal:
   • Example: Getting a promotion at work.
   • Desire Map Approach:
     • Core Desired Feeling: Fulfilled and Aligned.
     • Shift: Rather than solely chasing a job title, the emphasis is on aligning your work with your values and feeling fulfilled in your professional life.
3. Traditional Goal:
   • Example: Saving a specific amount of money.
   • Desire Map Approach:
     • Core Desired Feeling: Secure and Abundant.
     • Shift: Instead of just focusing on a monetary target, the goal is to feel secure and abundant by creating a healthy financial mindset and making choices that align with a sense of financial well-being.
4. Traditional Goal:
   • Example: Traveling to five different countries.
   • Desire Map Approach:
     • Core Desired Feeling: Adventurous and Connected.
     • Shift: Beyond the number of countries, the focus is on experiencing adventures that make you feel alive and building connections with people and cultures.